Not Just A Blonde

We are "Not Just" who we seem to be on this Earthly plane, but so much more. We are ALL children of a loving God who is calling us home to Love. This blog is dedicated to those of us on that journey together…

True Love comes with no ties or expectations, and offers no pain.

It is given freely and without any trade, strings attached or need to control.

Without expectations we are released from the other ever being able to harm us emotionally.

True Love never harms, is enduring, forgiving, gentle, kind and good… and has no strings attached.

With True Love you release the need to “get” and are focused on how best to “give”.

True love never demands the sacrifice of the true self, and acknowledges the divinity within both the giver and the receiver.

True love offers the humble awareness that in Creation there is no one more lovable to God than another.

Love all.


I have come to realize we can never be good enough for this world. We cannot be nice enough, thin enough, not rich enough, not talented enough, not giving enough, not organized enough, not smart enough… so I gave it up.

There seems to be a catch… many people have not given up their expectations for me. I disappoint them, annoy them, frustrate them… and why shouldn’t I? My lack of perfection is quite clear… and I don’t try to hide it.

I will often volunteer my mishaps, my embarrassing moments, my mistakes, my regrets, my weaknesses to others. No, it’s not false humility, or for attention, it feels like almost a confession of sorts. I confess to you all that I’m not perfect, so, guess what?! You don’t have to be either!

Yet, others could use this information against me I suppose. I could be gossiped about, undermined, back-stabbed or betrayed, yet this does not deter me. Announcing my humanity is too important to let petty fears or insecurities stop me from what I believe is an important act of love.

Love requires us to be authentic and vulnerable. Love requires we are open to one another. We often can relate to each other through our weaknesses. We can truly connect to each other when we have a glimpse of each others “real”ness!

The truth is, if we want to make everyone happy all the time and never ever make a mistake… it is an impossible goal. We cannot ever be perfect enough to gain admiration or continual love from the world or anyone in it. The world’s rules are set up to sabotage us and to pull us into darkness.

Our hope lies in accepting our brokenness and allowing ourselves to be vulnerable. With God’s grace and with the encouragement of others, some days we might succeed in being a better version of ourselves. Yet, there will be many days we will fall and fail and flail around wondering if we will ever get it right!

With God in our hearts and with Love as our focus we can let go of trying to be better than everyone else. We can let go of trying to become what others expect of us. We can let go of comparisons. We can let go of the false-idol of Perfectionism and be humbled by this truth:
We can never be good enough for this world, but we are always good enough for God.Jesus came to let us know we are saved… not by anything we could ever do, but because of who we are… God’s precious children!


When we come closer to love we come closer to God and to all that He wills for us. I firmly believe we each are here in this life to learn to love. Some are challenged by trying to love others, some are challenged to learn to love themselves.

Love is the key to the answer to life… to experience the spirit of love is to feel the presence of God. The world likes to trick us into thinking love is attraction, passion, excitement… yet this love is often fleeting and illusionary at best.

Spiritual Love… REAL Love has more depth, more gentleness, more kindness, more patience, more forgiveness, more peace than the world’s version could ever offer!

God is Love. Where Love resides, God is there also!


So many of us struggle silently amidst an outwardly seemingly perfect life. We smile, we laugh yet our hearts are quietly breaking.

How is it that we don’t fall apart? It’s a miracle most days to make it to the end without giving up. Many days it’s amazing we don’t quit the game all together. Few would blame us if they knew our private struggles. And yet, we struggle on, doing the best we can.

We have not been left here to fix our brokenness all on our own. There is help and hope for each of us within our darkness and despair!

Amidst the crumble of our breaking hearts God provides the glue. He takes the pieces in His hand and holds us together with His Love.


Gratitude means living in the moment and appreciating what IS. Not what could be or was… not even what should have been, but what is holy and special and wonderful right now.

As we prepare our hearts for this Thanksgiving, with our to do lists and plans… we ought take a moment to just be IN THE MOMENT… if only to be grateful for the beauty in front of us and all we have in our life right now. God Bless.
❤️Ann ‘Not Just A Blonde’


Jesus tells us to love our neighbor as we love ourselves. But what if we don’t really even like ourselves, let alone love ourselves? It is no wonder we struggle to love our neighbor!

Without self-love how can we begin to follow Jesus’ command? Truly, the love we might share with our neighbor is often limited by the lack of love we have for ourselves.

The person you need to learn to love first, is YOU! When you do not truly love yourself, you are not able to fully love another.

Spiritual self-love is not narcissistic nor haughty! This self-love does not compare our worth with others, it only affirms our individual God-given value and worth. It is humble, it is kind, it is affirming and healing! Spiritual self-love provides the key to fulfilling God’s outward-love focused command.

Yet, how do we begin to cross this hurdle when for so long our self-loathing is all we have found to be true? How do we silence the deceiver’s lie telling us we are worthless and unworthy? How do we begin to heal the self-hate we feel inside?

Loving ourselves involves acknowledging the beauty and value of God’s creation! Loving ourselves involves internalizing how love-able we are to our God. Loving ourselves means recognizing our eternal connection to a loving living God.

This awareness of our true lovability comes from our Spiritual connection to the Divine. We can not earn it, we only need to recognize it… claim it as true!

Be gentle with yourself, be patient, be kind. Forgive yourself for your human errors, do not define yourself by them as you should not define yourself by your success. We are defined by our spiritual relationship to God as one of His children.

Accept this love and let it pour into you and then though you. Loving yourself will be the best thing you can do, not just for yourself… but for this world!

Mark 12:30-31 (NIV)~
“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. The second is this: Love your neighbor as yourself. There is no commandment greater than these.”

Life is difficult. Truly, life can be so hard from time to time… sometimes the pain of this life feels unending. No matter how much we try to control it and make all the right choices, life at times is utterly unbearable! This is true for everyone… we each are guaranteed to suffer in this life.

Life is supposed to be difficult for us. Yes, God completely allows it! God allows difficulties to help shape us… not to punish us. God always, always, always, has our best interests at heart and desires for us to unite our will with God’s.

Someway, somehow, I believe the difficulties we experience in this life help us on our journey towards Him. The truth is our difficulties are what often remind us that this life isn’t about finding perfect happiness all the time or achieving all of our earthly dreams… but is about much, much more.

Our difficulties are what challenge us. Our difficulties are what cause us to look to God for direction and for peace. Difficulties force us to seek outside ourselves for help, for hope and for love. Most importantly, difficulties encourage us to give help, hope and love to others, as this is one of God’s greatest commands.


The quest for perfection is filled with folly. We can only do our best, and even with our earnest efforts we are guaranteed to fall short!

We should never be ashamed of our imperfections, as if they define us or predict our value. Not one of us is perfect, nor can we ever be!

Through the cracks of our defects we let can God in. It is through these cracks where God’s Love can shine into our hearts and into our lives.

I was reminded today how when we mess up sometimes God’s love can flow to us through others. Through their grace and forgiveness we are reminded we are still loved and love-able! What an amazing gift that is!

Through our imperfections we are shown that we are loved not because we deserve it or because we have earned it… but just because we are one of His own.


When we can’t do it all on our own, we then can admit we need each other.

We need each other for forgiveness… for strength… for encouragement… for help… for healing… and to share the burdens and joys of our life journey.

We were not created to be autonomous but to live in life’s Garden together.

This is how God intended for us to live… together in harmony, walking together in peace… and in love!❤️Ann


Time, time, it’s a funny thing. We want more of it and yet we want it to hurry up! We often want to rewind it yet we yearn also for a later date to come. Time passes no matter our efforts or denial. Time is a factor in this life and will keep going and going and going no matter what.

At the end of time there is: The End. All seasons must pass as goes the rhythm of life. No sense in holding on or grasping to what was… it is gone and now contains a new reality, and a new hope.

The End. So final, yet so full of promise! For there never is an end that does not follow closely behind with a new beginning! This beginning when embraced brings us closer to love.



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