Diversity Is Divine

We are all different. No two of us are alike! Even identical twins have differences, despite genetically being the same! Our differences are our strengths! Each of us with our unique gifts and perspectives contributing as only we can to bring Love to this hurting world!

Never be ashamed of what makes you special! Be proud of the YOU God has created you to be! We need you to be YOU as no one else can take your place or fulfill your purpose! No one else can complete your special mission in this life except YOU.

Our souls are each a special color, unlike any other on the spectrum! We are each a ray of beauty… yet together we are more! Together we create a rainbow that can inspire and heal an entire generation and provide Peace, Hope and Love to the generations to come!

God loves everyone no matter their hair-color, gender, orientation, religion, or race! I believe God celebrates each of us for the unique creation we are! Diversity is Divine!


Not Just A Blonde is One! Happy Anniversary!

It’s hard to believe just one year ago I brought my Not Just A Blonde blog home to rest here at WordPress. I came here from Blogger where Not Just A Blonde was born due to the increase ease and ability to connect with other bloggers and share ideas and deep-thoughts. It was a good move… make that a great move!

I want to thank all of you who have traveled this journey so far with me! Thank you to my soul sister Erika Finn at Urth Mama for encouraging me to write a blog in the first place! Thanks to my fellow blogger Blue Jean Femme at The Pink Triangle Cafe for her belief in me and in a world where we can do better! A special thank you to Tim Chastain at Jesus Without Baggage for his open-heart, open-mind and encouraging words.

Last, but by all means not least thank you to God (aka Higher Power, Holy Spirit, Creator) for having a beautiful plan for my life that included this sacred place for my soul to retreat to and to connect. I’m one lucky blessed Blonde! Here’s to one amazing year of spiritual growth! Thank you all!
❤️Ann ‘Not Just A Blonde’


Let Go to Find Peace

Take the risk of letting go of all that you’re clinging to and dare to face the fear that is driving you. Your fear will then pass through you and it will be all over. You will no longer struggle! You will have Peace.

Let go of conditions.
Let go of expectations.
Let go of attachments to Earthly things.

Let go and find the Peace that God has promised you. Set down the things you are clinging to so that you may embrace Peace.

❤️Ann ‘Not a Just A Blonde’

*Wisdom from the book “The Untethered Soul” by Michael A. Singer
For more on this topic go to: http://soundofheart.org/galacticfreepress/content/can-we-really-heal-another. I read this the evening after I posted the above and it further explains the truth shared in the post above.

The Death of a Child is like Losing Your Hand

The loss of a child or of someone with whom you are deeply bonded can be a painful experience and over time very isolating. As others close to you “move on” with their lives and go back to their normal routine, we struggle daily just to carry on! To add insult to injury many folks seem to be impatient and place an unspoken time-limit on our mourning!

Others actions seem to shout “Time to move on!” and “When are you going to be like your old self again?” Sometimes these are even the phrases we scream to ourselves! We lack patience and understanding not just from others but from ourselves as well! Without the much needed empathy we are left feeling even more lost and alone.

Perhaps we can attempt to in some way communicate the loss of our child or loved one in a way that will be more understandable to those who cannot or are unable to imagine what suffering such a loss might be like. Some of us have a hard time “going there” due to our own fears, anxieties or issues… and yet for some of us it is hard to truly BE THERE for those who suffer such pain because we simply cannot wrap our mind around such loss to understand what it might be like… and how to most lovingly respond.

For those who wish to understand… or if you are struggling with loss and cannot understand why it is so horribly difficult, I offer an analogy:

The death of a child is like losing your hand.

If you cut off your hand could you continue to live? Yes. Yet, you would be forever changed. Your “old ways” of doing things and interacting with your environment would no longer be possible. Your daily activities would never be accomplished the same ways again. Not because you don’t WANT to go back and do those things again, but because you CAN’T. Your hand is gone. You are not the same. A piece of you is missing. You are forever changed.

Your value as a person, a wife, a mother, a worker, a friend has NOT changed. No, you cannot produce or perform at the same level as before, at least not for awhile, until you learn new ways… but you are still you. You are still human. You continue to live, and function and feel… despite the pain.

Speaking of pain: it does not go away simply because a few weeks, months or even years have past. Where your hand once was attached there are nerves that have been severed. The nerves are raw and angry. The injury is real. You feel the pain caused by the loss of your appendage and the damage to those nerves. The hand is gone, but the pain left by it’s loss remains. Time will lessen the pain, but it will likely never go completely away.

Your hand was a part of you. You were attached. When you visualize yourself, your hand was a part of your self-image. It was a part of who you were. You shared memories and a history of doing meaningful things together! It was a part of how you interacted in this world and lived your life. It is how you did those things that make you… you.

Now your hand is gone. You will carry on in time, but you are forever changed. No one will tell you to “Get over it” as once lost, a hand does not simply “grow back”. It is understandable you would not behave or function in the same way as you did before your loss. It is obvious to all who see you that your loss is significant, life-altering and real.

Others applaud you for all you DO now accomplish despite this obvious loss. You should be proud of all you are able to do as well with the loss of your hand.

Now replace the loss of a hand in this story to the loss of a child. May all who read this begin to understand that those who lose a child have lost a part of themselves. The loss is not a physical part of them but a spiritual part… and completely REAL. Those who experience such loss will never function the same, nor should we ever expect such!

If someone you know and love survives the loss of a child (or if that person is you) encourage them for all their new accomplishments no matter how small, because for them it is like learning how to live again. Their pain is real. Their loss is real. And they will never be the same again… because their love is real as well.

How does it feels to lose a child? Cut off your hand and you may begin to understand.

❤️Ann ‘Not Just A Blonde’



This post is dedicated to all mothers who have experienced the agony of child loss. This essay was specifically inspired by the passing of my dear Aunt Donna’s son Alex and the passing of my soul nieces Annemarie and Vivian. Although I have not experienced child loss directly I am grateful and honored that I have been allowed on the journey of mourning with their mothers who I love so very very much!

Fear is a Cage

Many of us are trapped in cages created by our fears. We fear many things including: death, other people, the future, even ourselves!

Fear is a liar and a thief! It tells us we will be hurt! It steals our time and our peace-of-mind! Fear’s purpose is distraction and destruction. Fear distracts us from our true inheritance and destroys our peace. We can set ourselves free by realizing fear is not real.

Fear cannot hurt us. We are safe in the arms of a loving God. By appearing like a friend we mistakenly listen yet fear keeps us in the darkness of anxiety, worry, stress under the guise of protecting us! Fear is an illusion that keeps us from fully experiencing God’s presence in every facet of our lives.

Fear is an earthy signal and should be regarded as such. Fear tells us we may be crossing a boundary or that we are going outside our comfort zone, but we should never let fear lock us in.

Fear should not enslave us. We must always remember we are free and release ourselves from fear’s grasp! We cannot follow the path God has set for us if we are locked into a cage. Jesus came to free us from fear to experience a life filled with love.

❤️Ann ‘Not Just A Blonde’


Let Go of Fear to Embrace Love

You gotta let go of Fear to embrace Love. If you are not feeling the love… start looking at your fears and ask God to help you overcome them. Fear is something each of us experiences. It can be a valuable teacher that show us where we need to grow, where we need to let go or where we need to go!

Fear should not control us! Fear is only a messenger that lets us know we are not on the path God has intended for us. We should not try to avoid this feeling, but take notice of it and use it to help steer our path towards Love.

God has a plan for us. We aren’t meant to live a life ruled by fear, but a life filled with LOVE!



Reach Up!

When life is difficult and nothing seems to be going your way, just turn it over to the One who can handle anything and everything.

God has a plan for your life and wants the best for you at all times. When you feel down or at the end of your rope, let go and let God take control. God will never let you down… and you have nothing to lose but the problems and fears you are clinging to!

He has created us to be dependent on Him. We were never intended to do it all on our own! Guiding our path and helping us when we are down is how God shows us His love. It is not a failure to be unable to be self-sufficient but a reminder of our need to reconnect with the Divine!

How do you do this? Stop trying to do it on your own. Pray. Let go. Wait and watch the miracles. This reinforces our faith and reassures us of His eternal Love for us and for all of His Creation!

Reach up and let God show you how dearly and desperately you are loved!

❤️Ann ‘Not Just A Blonde’