Not Just A Blonde

We are "Not Just" who we seem to be on this Earthly plane, but so much more. We are ALL children of a loving God who is calling us home to Love. This blog is dedicated to those of us on that journey together…


 What if you realized you were chasing the wrong things in this life? Would you feel despair? Relief? 

Often our desires are misplaced as we chase things the world says matter: beauty, popularity, accomplishment, money, status… but what if you found out these things don’t matter? What if you realized you were being fed a lie? 

Well, we are each being lied to by this world! It is up to each of us whether or not we listen to the world’s deceptive voice or learn to turn our hearts to the One who created us for SO much more! ❤️Ann

  God’s Peace and Joy are ours no matter what is going on externally. No one can take away what is rightfully ours unless we give it away. Let go of the need to have events or people a certain way before you can claim your happiness and your peace. Know God is with us through every trial and every triumph. Love can only win when we let go of the need to control what is and open ourselves up to the possibility of what can be. Love on. ❤️Ann


Ego is only our earth-self… but our soul is the part of us that is eternal! Sometimes I get soooo frustrated with my ego and it’s antics… yet the ego is a part of our earth-self that is likely here to stay. The best I can do is recognize its voice and never let it drive my ship. If I can learn to love my ego but not buy into it’s drama then I can enjoy my earth journey without compromising my soul. 


Don’t be fooled by others tough exteriors… often the most vulnerable and wounded try to protect themselves by covering up their pain with a cloak of false confidence and strength. Sometimes those who appear the strongest are actually the weakest and those that seem the most self-assured are filled with the biggest doubts. 

Love others even if they don’t act like they need it or want it. Love them with your thoughts, with your forgiveness and with your prayers. Truly they are likely fighting battles you will never see nor fully comprehend… battles within their own soul. 

This is why we must love the person not based on their appearances or behaviors but for their true selves… the part that lies within each of us…the soul-part that connects them to God and therefore us to them as we are all connected through God’s ALL-encompassing love. 

Just remember: The ones who act like they are not hurting at all are often the ones who are hurting the most. Therefore, let’s be gentle with each other, love each other and encourage each other not based on how we appear but based on the truth: we are all God’s children deserving of Love. 


Those of you who know me well know how much I’ve loved Starbucks over the years. My coveted drink is a Venti, nonfat white mocha, extra-hot, stirred, no whip, with foam and a dash of cinnamon dolce topping. Trouble is my love affair with Starbucks had taken an obsessive turn for the worse.

I started using Starbucks for more than just for the coffee. Starbucks was my escape; an indulgence that represented self-value and self-nuturing. “Get me outta here!” I’d think when the kids got rowdy and I felt over-stimulated. I’d get in my van and drive across town to be served my magic self-love potion. “I deserve it!” I would rationalize when I loaded my gold card again and again with extra cash. 

Starbucks was how I showed myself love. It’s kinda sad… yet totally understandable too. I need love, you need love… we all need it! The truth is that love will never be found in a cup of coffee… no matter how yummy and amazing it is! 

It wasn’t until I considered stopping that I was aware of my great resistance. Until one attempts to and goes without, one can never know the pain that is being covered up. By going without my Starbucks for one day… and then two… and hurting for my coffee cup to be filled did I see what had gone terribly amiss! I craved love, not coffee. 

I’m not sure if I’ll ever give up my “love” for Starbucks, but I can tell you one thing for sure: I’m going to stop loving myself with Starbucks and start loving myself with compassion, self-acceptance, patience, honesty, kindness, and love. I will turn to God not coffee for the love I crave. 


What are you loving yourself with? 

What does it mean to ‘please God’? Does it mean to be giving? Patient? Kind? 

Pleasing God is not just about giving, because many people give with expectations of something in return. This does not please God.

Pleasing God is not just about Patience. Many murderers are patient as they plot and wait for the opportunity to kill their victim.

Pleasing God is not just about being kind. Many people act kind even when being passive-aggressive and with their attempts to “kill you with kindness”.  

What pleases God? It seems to me the key to pleasing God lies not within what you do or how you act… but lies within your heart. It is within the heart where the pure loving motivation within us resides. It is Love that is pleasing to God.


Love is a mindset, love is a choice. Love has nothing to do with the worthiness or the behavior of others and everything to do with our capacity to love. Love has more to do with our ability to express empathy and compassion and faith and hope and kindness and forgiveness and generosity. The ability to love has nothing to do with another and everything to do with our own soul.

This truth is fought by our conscious mind. Our egos resist this idea with every earthly fiber. It is much easier to be a victim of other’s decisions and behaviors and blame our limitations on our ability to love on the weaknesses and annoyances of others.

Once we accept that the ability to love is completely ours we are free to love as God intended. Our ability for joy and for peace is now without limit!  With the unconditional power of love we are now able to bring Heaven to Earth and bring ourselves closer to God.


Fear is a funny thing… it seems SO real and yet it is not a ‘thing’ at all. Fear gets its power from its deception… as it has no form it can come and go without rationality or reason. It can slip in and out of our consciousness without our awareness. Like a thief in the night it steals our peace, our hope and our joy. 

Once we turn on the Light in our lives the fear has no where to hide and we can see fear for what it is… a liar and a thief. The Fear I speak about is not the one that alerts you to present danger… it is the one that taunts you with worries of the future or things that most likely will never come to pass.

This Fear steals your hope, your time, and your peace. This fear lies that you are in danger when you are not. Fear likes to deceive you into believing you are threatened… and wants you to forget you are protected and always safe. How can you know you are always safe? You are safe because you are one of God’s beloved… you are never alone.

When I see fear I ask Him “What is your purpose?” If fear comes to protect me from immediate danger I thank him. If he comes to warn me about things that may or may not happen or things that may or may not be true… I send fear away. “Be gone!” I say, “I have no need of liars nor troublemakers in my life… I lie to myself enough as it is… and I can find my own trouble!”

Fear has no place in our daily lives. Where fear resides God cannot be. God asks us to give our fears, our worries and our concerns to him… and focus instead on Love. This Love will bring you comfort, wisdom and peace… and a knowing that everything will always be okay.

When fear takes leave you can be sure that peace and hope and love will return.


1 John 4:18 (NIV)~ There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.

Proverbs 29:25 (ESV) ~The fear of man lays a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is safe.

“‘Everything is permissible for me’—but not everything is beneficial. ‘Everything is permissible for me’—but I will not be mastered by anything.”

1 Corinthians 6:12 (NIV)

In other words: Just because you CAN do something doesn’t mean you SHOULD do something! Beware of addictions and dangerous choices that might hurt you… think before you do anything! Pause and ask yourself: Is what I am about to do BENEFICIAL or detrimental to me? The right choice is often the one that embraces the most love.


So what, you messed up? You say you feel like a filthy piece of garbage at the bottom of a dumpster in the back alley behind a sleazy bar? You feel like a loser? You feel like trash? Before you throw away the rest of your life… before you give up on your future… before you silence any of your dreams… listen to me: Stop.

Your shame will only imprison you longer. You are much more than any mistake. God can use you in ways that you would never be able to be used before you wandered off the more direct path towards Him. Yes, He can even transform your mistakes into something good if you let Him! 

 To be tempted and to taste darkness is to be human. Everyone sins. Everyone stumbles. Everyone sucks at one time or another. That’s just a fact. Make no mistake… no matter how far off track you have been, no matter how dark the trail, once you decide you’ve had enough all you gotta do is call out to God to help you find your way. Once you fix your eyes on Him you will immediately find yourself on a path that will lead you back towards Love; there you will find your purpose and your peace.



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