Not Just A Blonde

We are "Not Just" who we seem to be on this Earthly plane, but so much more. We are ALL children of a loving God who is calling us home to Love. This blog is dedicated to those of us on that journey together…


We don’t need to fight the darkness, our lives are transformed when we let in the Light. Just pray and then sit quiet and listen to God’s voice as he will assuredly speak to you. He will shine His light on your path and show you the way. There is no need to fight… relax in His Light.

Psalm119:105 Your word is a lamp to guide my feet and a light for my path.


How do we expect anyone else to respect our boundaries if we don’t respect ourselves?!

Self-love and self-respect are the first step in learning to set healthy and loving boundaries with others. The second thing we must do is stop pretending that everything is all right, when it’s not! The third thing is to tell the truth and not minimize our feelings. The fourth thing is to stay connected and boldly face our conflicts and problems. The fifth is to follow-through with consequences of those who cross our boundaries. The sixth is to take responsibility for our own lives. The seventh is to stay humble and recognize no one is perfect… we all will mess up from time to time. 

These seven things help us learn to set those boundaries that define us and teach others how we want to be… and expect to be treated in this life. 
Bravely stand firm while setting those boundaries and don’t back down or waiver! Respect yourself enough to set boundaries and do all the things it takes so that you can enjoy the life that you deserve! ❤️Ann


Here’s the thing, it is easy to see and to judge other people’s faults and wrongdoings. Super easy. So easy in fact we might assume that we are better than they are… you know, less “guilty”, “annoying” or “wrong”. When we look at ourselves we have a difficult time finding real fault… and even when we DO we make excuses and feel justified. 

We assume because it’s difficult for us to identify how we behave wrongly that we are less guilty, less annoying, less wrong than another. We assume that because we could not easily see our own faults… we must be better than them. Ha! This is not so. 

We are often blind to our own negative attitudes and behaviors and minimize the effects they may have on others. We are blinded because of our faults! 

Pride. Haughtiness. Arrogance. Self-centeredness. Greed. Envy. Coventry. Fear.

Our own ego’s lie to us to keep us from looking first within. This is how we are kept from becoming the person Spirit calls us to become. When we are focused on the sins of our neighbor we are distracted from looking at ourselves. 
Sometimes this task of looking within requires we ask someone we trust for honest feedback, a counselor, a spiritual mentor or friend. Someone who is looking out for our better good without their own ego’s interference. 

Jesus guided us towards this truth when he instructed us to first remove the log out of our own eye before we helped another. 

We must be humble before we can be helpful. We stay humble by always remembering: For every fault you see in another are two faults that you can work on yourself. Love on! 



Whatever you focus your energy on WILL grow, so focus your thoughts, energies, gifts, resources, time and attention on Love. ❤️Ann
Mathew 6:21-23 (NLT) ~ Wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart will also be. “Your eye is a lamp that provides light for your body. When your eye is good, your whole body is filled with light. But when your eye is bad, your whole body is filled with darkness. And if the light you think you have is actually darkness, how deep that darkness is!”


God, help me see what stuff is mine, see what stuff is theirs and to help me to carry my own stuff. Amen.

Helping someone with their stuff is good as long as we remember it is their stuff. I’m not talking material needs here, I’m talking Spiritual and Emotional. We can be empathetic without becoming codependent. 

By taking someone’s troubles on as our own we sometimes (unintentionally perhaps) take away another’s power to heal or to help themselves. We are each ultimately responsible to do our own soul work. Even Jesus cannot save you unless you choose to be saved. 
The choice is ours. Stop blaming others for your own fears, stress and anxieties. It is often our own choices that lead us to the circumstances of our troubles. 

Passing out power over to others does nothing but hurt us in the end. Release your guilt… embrace your life. Take action in correcting your path. Realize: It’s YOUR stuff. 
So don’t try and hand your stuff to another… God is the one who is going to give you strength and empower you to handle your stuff. 

Others may help you sort it but you are gonna have to carry it. Accept what stuff is yours and go to God for help. He’s got your stuff all under control and He is there to help me with mine. 

God is there to help… but it’s up to us to listen and take action and responsibility for our own stuff. 



By loving yourself and valuing yourself you open yourself up to the life you were created to live. You must value yourself enough to take note of your gifts and your strengths, to truly look at your good. It is only after appreciating what you have that you can offer it unto the world. This is what we are each called to do. This is how we are called to Love our neighbor as ourselves, by loving ourselves first so that we can give our love to others as we have each been uniquely gifted to love.❤️Ann


It was a beautiful sky tonight filled with colors and clouds that stirred my heart and soothed my soul. I paused and took it in… knowing despite its perfection that it would change and the colors would fade away into darkness.

That’s the thing with the sky… and with life, it’s always moving, changing. Life’s colors are always changing their hue depending on the time and the season we are living in. We can be comforted in some moments, in awe within another… yet no matter what… whether we are cherishing or loathing it’s shade… it will always change again. 

For now I will take in this sky, this precious moment that will never be again and be grateful for the many beautiful dawns and sunsets I have enjoyed, knowing in my heart that there will always be more of these and their colors of beauty until we reach the Perfect Sky where we will be with our loved ones, reunited in perfect Love.


Many search for Truth, but where can Truth be found?

The Truth can be found within each of us. The Truth is there… we just may not know it. Once we become aware of Truth we must learn to listen to It. Yes, we must be willing to let go of the noisy influence of the world with it’s empty promises and seductive lies. By attuning our attention to Truth we will learn to hear It’s voice. 

Truth speaks with the voice of Love. This Love is of the truest kind. Truth never leaves us. Truth’s character never wavers. Truth is steady and is ever-present. Truth shines for us It’s Divine light on the path towards God. 

John 16:13 (NIV) ~ “But when he, the Spirit of truth, comes, he will guide you into all the truth. He will not speak on his own; he will speak only what he hears, and he will tell you what is yet to come.”


Many times I blame others for how I feel. I suppose many of us do this, don’t we? “She makes me so mad!” we fume… “He just brings me down…” we lament. How can this be unless we LET it? We hand away the power to maintain our peace and let it go to the highest bidder. It’s so common we mistakenly believe this has to be so. Those closest to us are the most susceptible to getting blamed for us not protecting our peace. No one can put us down, shame us, or mentally mistreat us unless we let them do so. As children we did not understand and believed whatever others who were older or who we believed to be wiser were telling us to be true… but now we know we must be careful. Who can we trust to always care for us, to always prioritize our needs and to ALWAYS share with us Truth? God. 

God alone is who we should turn to for direction, truth and support. He is always reaching towards us in love if we are but quiet and listen. Others can bless us with their opinions and insights, with their support and their love, but it should never ever replace or distract us from the greatest Source of All. 

For today I choose to not let others fears and neurosis affect me. I choose to protect my peace. I choose to listen to the voice of All to tell me what I need to hear. I need nothing but Him. Our God of Love is within my heart, and yours… and is always with us and will never let us down. ❤️Ann


The past three days have been filled with a whirlwind of encouragement and spiritual insight! I attended a unique 3-day conferenced hosted by The Influence Network.  Who was this conference for and what was it all about?

In their words, The Influence Conference is for every woman. sister, friend, student, mom, artist, blogger, creative, writer, speaker, dancer, and daughter of God. They believe that every woman has influence, right where she is. This conference was a celebration and a starting place to encourage and spur on women in their passions, their projects, and the places they come from.

I felt encouraged. I felt inspired. More than that: I heard God speak to my heart right where I needed it.

I am SO grateful to my cousin Annalise who invited me to go with her months ago. She is a food blogger on her blog Sweet Anna’s and lives, cooks and blogs out of the Pacific Northwest. She loves food, her family, and most of all Christ. It is her faith that brought me to the conference and for that I will always be grateful!

Over the next few weeks, months and perhaps even years I will be sharing the things that I have learned during my time away at The Influence Conference with this special group of ladies. God works and often speaks through people, and these past few days were an example of that. God doesn’t just show up on Sunday folks! He is alive and well and craves us to draw close to Him and listen to Him if we but slow down, become quiet, focus and listen. That is what this week-end allowed me to do. Listen.

Truly The Influence Conference  will always hold a special place in my heart. The Influence Conference has refined my focus towards what my true purpose is… to be the influence God wants me to be right where I am.

I was reminded that God knows my struggles, my pain, my fears, my limitations… and yet he can turn the mess of me into GOOD! God was the one who gave me the talents and gifts that can be used to fulfill my unique purpose! He alone knows how I should best use them and cultivate them for my BEST life.  Yes, I am a part of His divine team sent here equipped with the ability to spread His love and help draw others closer to Him as I listen to His direction and allow Him to continue to cultivate his creation. The truth is, God wants YOU to live out your true purpose as well… and will lead you to where you need to be so that you can influence others towards their true identity and purpose as well.



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