Not Just A Blonde

We are "Not Just" who we seem to be on this Earthly plane, but so much more. We are ALL children of a loving God who is calling us home to Love. This blog is dedicated to those of us on that journey together…

Reading. It doesn’t just change your mind but your heart as well. 📚✨Through reading we are expanded… simply by picking up and immersing ourselves into another’s perspectives and experiences. ✨📚

Reading grows in us the capacity for expanded compassion, forgiveness, humility, patience, understanding, empathy and love. 

Read on. Love on.


I talked with the sweetest man yesterday. His name is Bill. I met him by almost bumping into him as I abruptly stopped in front of a store. A pretty spring blouse had caught my eye. I apologized and went inside to get a closer look. 
“Excuse me,” he said. I looked up and saw that he had followed me inside. “Can I see your left hand?” taken aback I lifted my left hand to him asking “Why do you ask?” “Oh, I see that you are married.” he replied. “I was wanting someone to eat lunch with to talk to because my wife just died earlier this year.” 
Right then I just knew we were meant to meet and to have this little talk. “I am so sorry to hear that.” I returned. They were married for over 62 years. She was “only” 81… and he is 86. 
He went on to explain how had lost his wife in February of this year after having to admit her into a nursing home. He expressed regret of not paying someone to take care of his wife at home in her final days. 
I could see the grief in his eyes. My heart reached out and I couldn’t help but give him encouragement and the hope. I nudged him outside away from the loud store music to talk. 
“You obviously don’t know this about me,” I said “but I am a very spiritual person. I have had a special interest in life after death for many years!”
I explained how I have read and listened to hundreds of stories and testimonials of people who have passed and crossed the veil. These people have then shared their insights with the loved ones they have left behind, either by coming back via an near-death experience (NDE) or through an after-death communication (ADE) such as within a lucid dream or vision. 

I asked if he was a Christian. No, not to convert him but to get an idea of how he perceived death and what his beliefs were on were his wife was now. He said his wife and he believed in God but often said that Heaven and Hell were mostly here in this life. I agreed expounding my beliefs on heaven and how life goes on after our bodies don’t. 
I told him heaven is here… and likely our loved ones are much closer than we think… we just can’t always see them. I explained how we are all made of energy, that’s how even our bodies work, but that energy never ceases, it only changes form. Once we die we “vibrate” our energy at a different level. Just like with the light and sound spectrums there are frequencies we can’t see or hear but scientifically we know they exist. I had his full attention and his eyes never left my gaze. 
I went on to encourage him to keep an open mind and open eye to his surroundings, that his wife was likely trying to let him know she was okay and not that far away! “Who knows?” I quipped “Maybe she is the one that caused you to bump into me!” 
You know what? That wouldn’t surprise me! “She could even be here,” I said “listening to our conversation right now!” As I was saying that to him I got chills… and typically I correlate that with a spirit asserting their presence. He smiled. 
He told me a little bit about his wife and how I reminded him so much of her, except she had auburn hair and was not blonde like me. It was a true compliment as you could tell he adored her. I thanked him. His eyes sparkled a bit and he continued to smile, as did I. 
We talked a little longer and he again asked me if I’d join him for lunch, but I politely declined (by this time a friend had called him on his flip phone placed on speaker and asked to meet him at a restaurant nearby for lunch). He asked me my name, and I asked him his. He offered me a hug and said “I hope we run into each other again!” I do too Bill, I do too. And you know what? Somehow I think that we will. 

#loveneverdies  #lifeafterdeath

I’m in healthcare so I feel obligated to show up for work. Plus, the owner of my clinic is a woman (and an incredibly awesome one at that)! So I will show up today wearing red to highlight the important presence of women in our society as leaders, caregivers, mothers, sisters, workers, and consumers. I proudly support National Womens Day to support all women of all races, religions, lifestyles and economic or social standing. We matter and we don’t need to be coy or overly polite as we remind the Nation and the World of just that. Love on ladies! 



Some days just suck. Let’s face it. There are days (not so long ago) where I find myself all bent-out-of-shape, irritated and basically in a bad mood. I knew I didn’t want to stay there! Overtime I’ve realized if I want my mood to change it is up to me. 😳 

How did I change it? 🤔With gratitude. ☺️💞 I took a moment to focus on on all that I was thankful for… taking my mind OFF of it’s toxic focus of all that seemed to be going wrong☠️and ON to everything that was going right👍🏼. And you know what? It worked! 👏🏼Gratitude is a powerful thing. ✨It’s a beautiful thing. 💖
I hope to always remember that Gratitude can change our mood, our day… and our life. Try it. You’ll be grateful that you did! 😉

We are the ones that have to look ourselves in the eye and tell ourselves the things we need to hear. We are the ones that have to believe them. Love starts here… love starts within. 


God is as available to each of us as the air that we breathe. We do not have to search for it or earn the right to breathe it. It is free to each of us without condition. Like the air, God is here surrounding us and within us. Just breathe. ✨


We have the power to change our lives simply by changing ourselves. ✨❤️✨

Change yourself, change your life. You’ve heard it and it’s true. It’s the changing ourselves that is the hard part. Denial, fear, or just plain lack of insight keep us stuck in patterns of behavior and thoughts that perpetuate our unhappiness. 
How easy it is to blame others for our pain and our suffering! This is not to say that other’s negative behaviors don’t affect us, only that WE are responsible for being a part of the dynamic that allowed for it to be. We are also just as responsible for our reaction. 

This is where the power to change comes in! When we are able to identify and then change in ourselves the things that we are doing (or not doing) that keep us stuck, that is when our life is transformed. By focusing our energy on ourselves we will begin to experience the relationships and the life that we dream of! 

We must not wait or depend on anyone else to begin living a better life. Often nothing will ever change… until we do. 

#change ✨ 😉💖

I believe often that people who judge other people are just distracting (or attempting to distract) their psyche from their own self-judgment, self-loathing, and self-hate. Learning to love, accept and forgive others must first follow learning to love, accept and forgive ourselves. 


#selflove #judgingothers #judgingourselves #love

It’s easy to be happy when everyone around you is happy. It takes great strength and resolve to maintain happiness when surrounded by sadness and negativity. If we depend on others to bring it to us we will find ourselves at the whim of others moods and emotions. Happiness is best found from within. 

Happiness is a beautiful mixture of peace and joy. To find happiness within we must cultivate peace. To experience happiness we must also find our joy. 

Decide today to no longer seek happiness from outside sources but to find your happiness from within.


#happiness #joy #peace #happinessisaninsidejob

Shhhhh, already! Quiet that voice that hates you… you know, the one that goes on (and on, and on…) about how much you suck. The one that rubs into your face your imperfections, and minimizes your value and worth. The one that tells lies just because it can. 

Silence that voice… tell it firmly to shut up. When you do, listen to the whispers of your heart. The sweet gentle voice that tells you you are enough, you are worthy… you are not only lovable, but you are always and forever LOVED. 


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