Not Just A Blonde

We are "Not Just" who we seem to be on this Earthly plane, but so much more. We are ALL children of a loving God who is calling us home to Love. This blog is dedicated to those of us on that journey together…

We each lead lives filled with problems. Many of the most painful ones are internal. We live our lives suffering from all kinds of these inner hurts including: insecurity, loneliness, anger, bitterness, resentment, fear, and sadness.

We do some crazy things to try and solve these inner problems! We drink, we shop, we eat, we work, we hide… all in an attempt to solve the pain of our problems. If we are anxious we may have a drink, if we are stressed we may grab some m&m’s, if we are lonely we may log on to Facebook, if we are feeling unattractive we may buy a new pair of shoes. These “solutions” however only offer us temporary relief!

We must stop looking for a solution to our inner turmoil and unhappiness outside ourselves but instead look within. These external solutions will never truly solve our problems or satisfy us. They distract us from the true source of a solution that lies within ourselves.

Sure, we can distract ourselves from our inner problems, but they are still there in the morning… and we are then stuck with the hangover, the debt, the extra weight, the inevitable disappointment that an external solution offers. Often our attempt to solve our problems in this way just perpetuates our problems and creates more pain.

Nothing and no one on Earth can truly make us happy. No amount of money, attractiveness, success, or even the “perfect” relationship can heal our pain.

We solve our inner problems by looking instead inside ourselves. We look within our souls for the solution. We are present with the problem. We feel the pain. We recognize it and then release it to God.

We quiet our minds from anger and blame. Then we pray. We heal our inner problems by listening to His Voice as He lovingly directs our path and heals our hearts.

You cannot solve inside problems with outside solutions… as God heals us from the inside.

❤️Ann ‘Not Just A Blonde’


Inspiration for this post from “The Untethered Soul” by Michael A. Singer.

10 thoughts on “You Can’t Solve Inside Problems With Outside Solutions

  1. Chas says:

    In this comment it is necessary for me to rely on what can be seen in others, rather than by my own experience, because God has granted me a very blessed life, so there are no ‘millstones’ round my neck. The things that you have listed initially, Ann, are distractions – ways of distracting minds from the things that they are trying not to think about. The classic one is ‘drowning our sorrows in drink.’ The way of healing the mind of these hurts is, with suitable help, to confront them, rather than to try to avoid them. As you rightly say, God is the best helper in this process, yet it is still necessary to go through the process of confronting them, and even those who can be identified as true believers (by their speaking in tongues) can still fail to confront those fears (I personally know two examples). This is an example of God wanting us to do something, but we have to help ourselves by making the first step. If we are aware of the source of the hurt, we need to ask God to help us to overcome it, so you are absolutely right in the solution you have given in the last two paragraphs!


  2. laurie31585 says:

    So true! And all those shopping trips just serve to clutter my life which creates a vicious cycle of unhappiness. Thanks for this post. Time to start spring cleaning!


    1. I’ve been thinking the same thing! And just on case I didn’t take God’s hint the pastor spoke about Simplicity today at church and have each of us a trash bag to fill with the extra unneeded clutter in our homes. Thank you for your comment! ❤️


      1. Chas says:

        Yes, and there is a Spiritual trash bag there too, because God wants to de-clutter us Spiritually too, so we can give Him more of our attention, rather than being constantly distracted from Him.


  3. Chas says:

    Over and again it is possible to see people who believe that Jesus was the Son of God, yet they do not behave as if they are being guided by the Holy Spirit, and so it is possible to see that something vital is missing. What is not shown directly in the Bible is that all of us begin our lives separated from God, so we have all done things that have led to suffering, because we have been influenced by the destructive behavior of others. The core Good News is that we can come out of that separation only when we are aware of it, and know that belief in Jesus as the Son of God brings us out of separation and into the Presence of God. It is His Presence that the Bible refers to as the Holy Spirit, and this is how we can be guided and enabled to resist destructive behavior.


    1. Thank you Chas for another thought provoking comment! ❤️Ann


  4. Chas says:

    Ann, Thank the One who sent the comment, not me.


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