Not Just A Blonde

We are "Not Just" who we seem to be on this Earthly plane, but so much more. We are ALL children of a loving God who is calling us home to Love. This blog is dedicated to those of us on that journey together…

  People cannot give you what they do not have. At times it isn’t that our expectations for others are too high, too demanding or out of line with what we deserve… it is that the one we expect it from does not have it to give. Many things can contribute to this sad truth …

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  Forcing love just does not work. Specifically, holding onto a relationship that needs to evolve causes pain. It is not beneficial to resist change nor is it the loving thing to do for ourselves or for another. Change is indeed one of the few constants in this life!  Holding on to a relationship you …

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 Don’t be fooled by others tough exteriors… often the most vulnerable and wounded try to protect themselves by covering up their pain with a cloak of false confidence and strength. Sometimes those who appear the strongest are actually the weakest and those that seem the most self-assured are filled with the biggest doubts.  Love …

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So what, you messed up? You say you feel like a filthy piece of garbage at the bottom of a dumpster in the back alley behind a sleazy bar? You feel like a loser? You feel like trash? Before you throw away the rest of your life… before you give up on your future… before …

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True Love comes with no ties or expectations, and offers no pain. It is given freely and without any trade, or need to control. True Love never harms, is enduring, forgiving, gentle, kind and good… and has no strings attached. With True Love you release the need to “get” and are focused on how best …

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I have come to realize we can never be good enough for this world. We cannot be nice enough, thin enough, not rich enough, not talented enough, not giving enough, not organized enough, not smart enough… so I gave it up. There seems to be a catch… many people have not given up their expectations …

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Jesus tells us to love our neighbor as we love ourselves. But what if we don’t really even like ourselves, let alone love ourselves? It is no wonder we struggle to love our neighbor! Without self-love how can we begin to follow Jesus’ command? Truly, the love we might share with our neighbor is often …

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When we can’t do it all on our own, we then can admit we need each other. We need each other for forgiveness… for strength… for encouragement… for help… for healing… and to share the burdens and joys of our life journey. We were not created to be autonomous but to live in life’s Garden …

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When you think of others before you think of yourself, you are humble. When you are less concerned about what others are thinking of you and more concerned about how they are feeling, you are humble. When you are not concerned about what you are getting form others, but how you can give, you are …

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